My DH Rocks.
He works 8+ hrs a day and then also works most weekends for a few hours in our own photography business, so that I only have to work 2 days a week.
When he gets home he takes over the kids so I can get tea done if it not already started or so I can do some other things. He then baths one if not both kids and gives them tea. He then goes down and does some computer work for an hour or so and un winds. Then he feeds DD to sleep and puts him to bed. He will then sit and snuggle with DD while I go for my nightly walk.
He gets up EVERY night and feeds DD his night feed - he enjoys snuggling with him one on one and then puts him back to bed.
Last night DD woke up and he went and settled her again as well.
My DH loves spending time with the kids and then when the kids are asleep we spend an hr watching TV together.
I thank him alot and usually his reponse is "they are my kids to and I enjoy helping and spending time with them" He just gets it.

I hope you DH gets it a bit more at some stage and can help you out xo